Honesty. Pro or against.

That word sounds wonderful, doesn't it?

Ok, it's suppose to. Honesty is the best policy, we've all been told since childhood. But what happens if honesty winds up hurting someone for no reason? Is it morally right to be honest, and tell someone that, say, their hair is stringy, the wrong color, or that they look fat, or sloppy, or need a new anti-wrinkle cream? Are these types of honesty statements better left unsaid? Well, let's examine.

What is the motivation for the statement. Are you using it as a weapon, to put someone down. What are you using as a moral compass? Does it make you feel superior? If it does, I don't feel you're the one to inform someone of these shortcomings. But then, what if it's true, and if the person doesn't know, it's actually hurting them, either in career, or social life? I still don't think, if you're getting enjoyment out of it, that you are the one to tell them. Saying it "for my own good", just doesn't gloss it over.

What if you work for a friend, and they're not doing a good job. Where do you step in, or do you? Do you let the chips fall as they may? Maybe the job they're doing, isn't what they should be doing. Maybe everyone needs to find these things out for themselves. But I'm telling you, as angry as I may get at hearing negative things about myself, I hate being blindsided. So. . .

I'm not sure how I really feel about honesty...I want to say I'm for it.  But there are so many people with so many opinions of what is right and wrong, that I have really come to feel that sometimes I just want you to keep your honesty to yourself...I don't want to know that you think my haircolor is brassy, not when others like it.  I don't want to know that you think I'm fat...not when my husband loves the curves.  I don't need to know you're having an affair,and you put me in the middle of your drama.  Leave me in the dark about all those honest opinions unless I ask...

Hello!!!