Well I think about my family’s right to privacy but it’s more than that Ginger, It’s never occured to me to think that most of the people who are watching me care one way or the other about what’s going on in my life or where my life has gone! sure there are people like you and (deleted ) who very good at developing relationships, but for the most part there are few who have appreciation for how I come off! Still I would rather have a couple of friends than a whole lot of friends.
I have always been the type of person, who decides pretty quickly how I feel about people….I also have always used my experiences to reach out to other people….I empathize with people and a connection for me is formed….I have actually been thinking of writing about this subject, because for me this is the first time that it has been cyber…..It is a unique experience…..how can I care so much for so many people that I have ever met…or have I? Meaning….no, I can’t see your body language….I can’t hear the inflections in your speech…there is nothing to use for those cues we all pick up on….......I can’t interrupt you, or get distracted by any little habits you have, either…..so…....I’m listening ….to…..you…....... does this mean I don’t really know you because I haven’t heard your voice? I don’t honestly know…..But I do know, that I like what I know of you...and I pick up on things without those “normal” cues… We all give away little pieces of ourselves without meaning too…..It’s an interesting subject, don’t you think???
_I agree that we all give away little pieces, whether consciously or not and some of us are better at picking up on those or some people are better at ignoring them than others. *It’s my impression that the people who experience the most out of life are the people who are conscious of these nuances in how people communicate , and can interpret what the real message is*. *I also believe that there is a sort of invisible connection between some people who resonate at the same frequencies.* I also am a believer that some of us have met before, but not in the here and now! Yes I do think this a very interesting subject !_
The above conversation is a very brief one I had with one of my favorite Redbubble.com friends....I leave it to him if he wishes to be identified.
This is, indeed, an interesting and often debated subject. And I am truly wondering more and more about this phenomenon....the incredible interaction and bond that forms on line. People meet on line and a romance begins. But how? What is it they fall in love with? Is it pure intellect this way? But can't people lie more easily in the safety of their dark room lit only by their computer screen? Do you put a "mask" on or take it off? Or is it as with all things, dependent on a persons character. Now, how can we tell a persons character without our natural filter most of us have when dealing with someone in person?
This is new to me....I've never participated in the on line chat before....Although I've been using computers for various reasons since the old 36K Apples, I don't usually "chat", preferring face to face interactions. I have been called an empath by psychics, and it seems that I do feel peoples emotions, sometimes scaring them............and me. But am I "reading" their energy......or am I picking up on unconscious cues from their body language, using that filter I talked about earlier?
That being said, I've made some incredible friends here,(Redbubble.com) however it happens....I'm pulled strongly toward some over others. Feeling incredible connections, bonds. Some it has turned out after a few conversations, have similar personalities...some of the closest, even have birthdays within days of my own.
As my friend said above..... It’s my impression that the people who experience the most out of life are the people who are conscious of these nuances in how people communicate , and can interpret what the real message is. Unless I am way off and deluded, I am one of these. I do believe I get more out of life because I don't make as many mistakes with people....I know when to leave someones house, I know when the party is over.....I know when someone wants to talk and when they don't....I know who is shy vs someone who is private....I truly want to and like to understand a person.
He also said I also believe that there is a sort of invisible connection between some people who resonate at the same frequencies. There is a book about frequencies called the Celestine Prophesy that I read a while ago and loved, which talked alot about this subject...I could spend a whole evening just talking about this.
Then he said this.... I also am a believer that some of us have met before, but not in the here and now! Probably the most debatable subject of all.....It would explain so much, if it were true...the instant likes or dislikes of a person....the feeling of closeness to someone you've never met before.... Again...wonderful subject for another day.
But what do you all feel about online friendships? I believe if I were to meet Christopher Birtwistle-Smith or Chasingsooz, or Jadeast, Lori, Cazzie,Kasey, Sally, or Jan, Kevin, Dave and MAX! or a dozen others I could name, I would love them as family...I truly love these people. I would love to meet Amanda in person, or Helen, Doreen, Wendy Slee...... Do you think that impressions that we form of people are _more_ reliable because people drop their masks and can talk more freely or less reliable in that they can pretend to be someone they are not . Or is it as I said, same as anything, dependent on each individuals motives, agenda, character?
Online friendship take time to build just like offline relationships and they are always dependent on the individual's motive, agenda and character. sometimes we strike gold and find likeminded people who share a lasting bond for many years and other times we realise that something is not quite right and back off. But I think that's life. Interesting article Ginger. I hope you continue to blog.
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